Read all the chicken soup, why are you still so “bereaved”?

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chat together on weekends, talking about the house purchase restriction in the previous period of time, which makes many friends around go crazy today.

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clearly have enough down payment. Mingming can buy a commercial and residential building to improve living conditions first. Mingming’s conditions are just right, and nothing can be bought overnight. I have worked hard for a long time and thought that I could succeed immediately. The pain that I just signed the contract and was forced to terminate it by force majeure can not be alleviated for several months. In addition, there are no special achievements in working steadily. There are always some unpleasant things in life. Bereavement has become the biggest emotion and state in this period of time.

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used to have a word called xiaoqiaoxing, especially fire, which refers to the small happiness in life;

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now have a word called xiaoqiaobei, especially fire, which refers to the small things that are sad and fail in life. Although

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are not major failures in life, they are enough to make their hearts languish to disappointment and powerlessness.

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are late for work, customers don’t listen to themselves, lose weight will never fail, can’t afford to buy a house, do nothing, can’t get promoted, every day seems to be eating and dying

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everyone hates chicken soup and inspirational books, but inspirational books are always popular. Why?

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are the normality of most people’s daily life because of their bereavement. How can there be so many successes that everyone can be refreshed every day.

2 everyone is bereaved, just don’t let you see it.

read an article a few days ago, called “brief history of bereavement”. There is a saying:

many research institutions have proved that: the longer people use social media, the lower their satisfaction with life. When they see other people’s bright life (even if it is elaborately decorated or even camouflaged), they will inevitably doubt that they are a lover. Therefore, even if the material aspect of human beings is greatly enriched, what follows is a lingering and increasingly strong feeling of “nothing” and the fear of this feeling

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once had an article called “don’t disturb others’ happiness”, which was about not using your own definition of happiness to define the happiness of the people. For example, you drive your own BMW, but don’t say that other people’s cycling is the failure of life. But the Internet, let all this turn around, nobody disturb you, is oneself cheap, must see others contrast oneself.

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used to have QQ space and microblog. Now there is wechat official account circle of friends. Most people will not expose their unhappiness to the air to make you laugh. Everyone will take pictures. You can admire your big long legs. You can drool when you take pictures of the whole audience. You see, other people’s life is so colorful, I wake up every day with a sweaty unkempt face. Compared with the past, I seem to have made progress, but compared with other people’s, my efforts are worthless shit.

a few days ago, someone asked me on the microblog: “sister Xing, why do you see your life so bright every day? Don’t you have the chaos and failure of most of us?” Why not

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? I lost more than you. For example,

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were late to take their son to swimming class. They didn’t go to the fitness class for a long time, and the coach said that they could never finish the manuscript. They finally thought of an idea that was destroyed by the customer, not skinned down, and it was summer, so hot, how could the air conditioner not come.

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are all daily small funeral, but they are also enough to upset people every day. Events can make people feel depressed for years.

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used to chat with friends, and the lonely

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who lost their abnormal boss and single dog now chat with friends, and the bereaved capital is family and children.

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don’t know what school to choose. Middle-aged people are old and young. The

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houses want to be changed, but they don’t have enough money. The

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businesses are stagnant, but they dare not slack. More and more

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money needs to be made, and they can’t earn enough money. Everyone is lost, just don’t let you see it.

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that you don’t even lose, everyone is very lost, negative energy occupies the whole heart, but where are so many negative energy coming from?

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in the brief history of bereavement, there is a saying:

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, “the distribution law of social pyramid will not change because of the equal rights of course. Only a few of the best lucky people have the chance to stand out and realize their dreams; and most of them, as time goes by, can’t change their identity. They will turn to be depressed, extremely distressed, and despise themselves, and even hate those around them who are better than themselves. ”

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in fact, the so-called “mourning” is just that after entering the society and starting to live independently, they have encountered various frictions and small troubles. These problems have existed before, but our parents have solved them for us, so when we start to face them independently, we feel why life is so hard for one monster after another.

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in fact, everyone’s life is very bitter, because everyone faces the same society and world. It’s just that some people are willing to make great efforts to change and make their achievements stand out, but those days of struggling at the bottom are no easier than you. Most of us belittle the secrets and laws of success. See the success of people around, only see the surface, not the pay behind. Therefore, for their own failure, they never blame too little effort, but only blame themselvesNo one else’s good father.

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our growth itself is very strange: before the age of 20, we are all good babies at home. After graduation at 24, we need to be independent. At 30, we need to take responsibility for our family. At 35, we have to face the challenges of the old and the young. Everything has changed too fast, their own growth can not keep up with, a large number of children will come out. But on the contrary, who is the fault of a person who can’t live until he is 20 and has unrealistic illusions about society?

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are themselves. I’m used to myself when I was a child, and I’m used to myself when I grow up.

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a few days ago, my friend said to me: I’ve been stupid to work and earn money, and I never thought about buying a car or a house, or looking for my boyfriend and girlfriend to set up a family. People around me are living like this. Why do I seem to meet so many difficulties? I’m 30 years old. I don’t seem to understand anything?

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in fact, only you always treat yourself as a baby, others are not so bad, but you think others are the same as you, in fact, everyone is running in front of you. When you react one day, you will find that you are not even a senior mourner.

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